Five Ways to Raise A Responsible & Well-Mannered Child

Every parent aspires to raise children with good and commendable character. We want them to grow up courteous and disciplined. This can be a big challenge for mothers and fathers as kids are always learning, growing and changing. It can even feel like a test of patience at times as children have the tendency to show the not-so-fun sides of parenthood such as dealing with tantrums or not abiding by the rules. It isn’t unusual to see young kids exhibit rebelliousness and disobedience as they are yet to learn how to properly react to situations or manage their emotions. However, since they are still young, you can try out techniques to ensure that they will ultimately outgrow unpleasant behaviors. The following pointers can help you instill discipline and strengthen the character of your children.

Establish rules.

Even at a very young age, you can teach your children the rules they need to abide by. This is a practice that is applicable later on in their life as we all have to abide by rules everywhere we go. Discuss these rules with your children and explain why there are things that they are not allowed to do. It will help if you let your kids know that your rules are not meant to punish them. Instead, teach them that rules are necessary to achieve order. To encourage your children to follow the house rules, make them aware of the rewards that come with following the rules such as an organized home (by cleaning up after themselves) or good school grades (by having a daily study time).

Set consequences.

Setting rules won’t achieve anything if breaking them does not incur consequences. This is very important because sometimes children try to break the rules just to discover your reaction. These consequences should be discussed along with setting the rules so your children know the risks involved when they don’t follow it. If the rules and the punishments for breaking them are clear from the start, your child will learn that every action has a consequence.

Be vigilant and consistent.

Many parents resort to scaring or threatening a child about a possible punishment for misbehavior; but few actually enforce them. Kids can be mischievous and may try to test you in order to see what they can get away with. However, letting a wrong deed pass will only encourage your child to do it again. Parents who want their child to really learn from breaking the rules should be stern and consistent to help them learn from their mistakes. Consistency in enforcing consequences is equally important as well. Your effort in instilling discipline might go down the drain if you will get upset over a bad deed today but then let your child go away with it the next day.

Be a good example.

Parents who want to raise disciplined kids should begin by examining their own behaviors. As they say, you can’t give something you do not have. Strive to practice the good traits and values you want to teach your kids. You can’t make a child keep a tidy room if he or she sees that your room looks like a mess. Raising a child who values good health will also be next to impossible if you don’t follow a well-balanced diet. Let your daily actions serve as examples and set you up as a model for your child to emulate.

Recognize and reward good behavior.

It is important to notice when your child is being disciplined and polite. Don’t hesitate to let them know that you’ve noticed their good behavior or when they’ve been consistent in following the rules. You can even offer rewards to help encourage and incentivize them to continue to follow the rules. This will further reinforce positive behaviors and can help it become a natural habit.

There are many ways for parents to demonstrate their love and care for their children. One of the best ways is by instilling discipline and strengthening their character. Your kids will surely be grateful for this as they grow older and apply their childhood leanings on discipline throughout their life.

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How To Squeeze In More Quality Family Time Everyday

If you want to have a lasting marriage and a happy family life, you need to learn how to use your time well. Your amount of time and how you spent it plays a crucial role in building and maintaining relationships. Unfortunately, the hectic pace of the modern world makes it a real challenge to make every moment count.

With so many tasks waiting to be accomplished, it is so easy to set aside family time for later. If you are not diligent enough, that family time you promise for later may never come. Your children may grow up hardly noticing your presence and your marriage may crumble and you will not even get the chance to save it.

First things first: Daily bonding time is doable!If you find yourself constantly wishing for more hours in a day just so you can spend more time with family members, you may need to consciously make an effort to make time for it. With a little creativity, you can come up with ways to bond with your kids and spouse daily. The following are simple ideas you can try in order to squeeze in more quality family time everyday:

Dine with family.

It will be hard to go through the day without eating, so making sure to share at least one of those meals with family will hardly take up much of your time. Aside from that, family mealtimes are a great way to catch up with each other. You may need to wake up earlier to have time for breakfast at home or forego overtime work so you can bond with your family over a hearty dinner. Work schedules can be erratic and hectic but it will be worth it to ensure that you get to eat with your family at least a few times a week.

Take your kids to school.

If the school where your children go happens to be on on your way to work, you have another reason to wake up earlier in the morning. That is so you can still have time to take your kids to school. It is an easy way to stay present in your kid’s life and to keep track of their school activities. This initiative may even get your kids excited about going to school.

Beat traffic with quality time.

Traffic jams can be annoying, but you cannot do anything about it most of the time, so you might as well beat it. On occasions when you are stuck on traffic and your family is with you, you can turn the frustrating time on the road as instant quality time. Instead of ranting or being idle, you can share stories with your kids or discuss something with your spouse. If the traffic is so bad, you can even play a mini game that you can all  conveniently do in a car.

Make good use of technology.

Instant messaging and social media have the tendency to steal precious family time if used in the wrong way. However, if you use it the right way, you can use technology to stay closer to your family members. On days when your schedule is full, you can still allow your spouse and children to feel your presence by leaving a surprise note on their social media account or simply texting leaving a message on their phones. It is an easy way to tell your family that you strive to make an effort to find time for them even on your busiest days.,

Take your family to work.

Companies know the importance of family, so there may be events and parties where you are encouraged to bring your kids and spouse. Watch out for these family-friendly company events and do not hesitate to take advantage of it. It is a great opportunity to create memories with your family.

You also hit two birds with one stone because at the same time you get to be an active participant in company affairs. As the saying goes, “Time is gold and it flies.” It is definitely one thing that you can never buy or take back, so you better make the most of it. One of the best ways to use time is with your family. You will surely not regret showering the people closest to you with your time.

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