How To Squeeze In More Quality Family Time Everyday

If you want to have a lasting marriage and a happy family life, you need to learn how to use your time well. Your amount of time and how you spent it plays a crucial role in building and maintaining relationships. Unfortunately, the hectic pace of the modern world makes it a real challenge to make every moment count.

With so many tasks waiting to be accomplished, it is so easy to set aside family time for later. If you are not diligent enough, that family time you promise for later may never come. Your children may grow up hardly noticing your presence and your marriage may crumble and you will not even get the chance to save it.

First things first: Daily bonding time is doable!If you find yourself constantly wishing for more hours in a day just so you can spend more time with family members, you may need to consciously make an effort to make time for it. With a little creativity, you can come up with ways to bond with your kids and spouse daily. The following are simple ideas you can try in order to squeeze in more quality family time everyday:

Dine with family.

It will be hard to go through the day without eating, so making sure to share at least one of those meals with family will hardly take up much of your time. Aside from that, family mealtimes are a great way to catch up with each other. You may need to wake up earlier to have time for breakfast at home or forego overtime work so you can bond with your family over a hearty dinner. Work schedules can be erratic and hectic but it will be worth it to ensure that you get to eat with your family at least a few times a week.

Take your kids to school.

If the school where your children go happens to be on on your way to work, you have another reason to wake up earlier in the morning. That is so you can still have time to take your kids to school. It is an easy way to stay present in your kid’s life and to keep track of their school activities. This initiative may even get your kids excited about going to school.

Beat traffic with quality time.

Traffic jams can be annoying, but you cannot do anything about it most of the time, so you might as well beat it. On occasions when you are stuck on traffic and your family is with you, you can turn the frustrating time on the road as instant quality time. Instead of ranting or being idle, you can share stories with your kids or discuss something with your spouse. If the traffic is so bad, you can even play a mini game that you can all  conveniently do in a car.

Make good use of technology.

Instant messaging and social media have the tendency to steal precious family time if used in the wrong way. However, if you use it the right way, you can use technology to stay closer to your family members. On days when your schedule is full, you can still allow your spouse and children to feel your presence by leaving a surprise note on their social media account or simply texting leaving a message on their phones. It is an easy way to tell your family that you strive to make an effort to find time for them even on your busiest days.,

Take your family to work.

Companies know the importance of family, so there may be events and parties where you are encouraged to bring your kids and spouse. Watch out for these family-friendly company events and do not hesitate to take advantage of it. It is a great opportunity to create memories with your family.

You also hit two birds with one stone because at the same time you get to be an active participant in company affairs. As the saying goes, “Time is gold and it flies.” It is definitely one thing that you can never buy or take back, so you better make the most of it. One of the best ways to use time is with your family. You will surely not regret showering the people closest to you with your time.

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Life Lessons I Learned From Coaching Youth Sports

Youth sports coaches come from a variety of different sports backgrounds, with various levels of knowledge within their game of choice. When signing up for the role, all coaches are aware of the effect they may have on each individual child athlete’s development. From physical skill, to work ethic, to sportsmanship, many of these attributes fall into the hands of the coach. But what about the effect that coaching has on the adult coach themselves? The benefits of coaching youth sports go beyond getting involved within your community and enjoying consistent exercise. The benefits I received from coaching have forever changed my life, and how I live each day.

Here are five life lessons that I learned from being a youth sports coach:

Keep Life In Perspective

Coaching allows you the opportunity to work with children from a variety of different upbringings and backgrounds. Some of the players come from very low-income families, while others may live lavishly. Because of this, I am always grateful for all that I have and remind myself how fortunate I am every day. However, when the players run out to the field, all differences are thrown aside and they are there to play the game. It is important to remember that is just a game. It doesn’t matter whether you win or lose. What does matter is that you enjoy playing the sport and that you find a value in current experiences balanced with the value of future opportunities– even when that includes a loss. In life off the field, I’ve learned that you must maintain the same perspective of value from experience as well as keeping balance so you don’t get consumed by one thing.

The Value Of A Good Hustle And Hard Work

You know the saying, “Good things come to those who hustle,” I would like to revise it to say, “Good things come to those who hustle and work hard.” The two go together. If you hustle that means you are going 100% all the way through. Combine that with the attributes of hard work such as, time, discipline, and commitment and you will see achieve your goals or even surpass them. Take baseball for example, when at bat, you don’t want to just reach first base, you want to run with everything you’ve got and go through the base. Whether your goals are sports-related, personal, or professional, the same idea applies. I’ve also found that when faced with an obstacle, you must exhibit the same hard work and 100% effort, to push through the challenge and persevere in order continue moving forward.

Be Ready For Anything At Anytime

As a coach, you must be ready and able to quickly adapt to always changing situations. Say a player gets injured during the game or the opposing team is continuously beating your defensive scheme. Using quick, flexible thinking, you need to present a new idea or solution. Outside the sports arena, you will be presented with new opportunities at any time, in relation to work, personal, community-driven, or even faith-related possibilities. When one door opens you don’t want to be skipped over because you are not prepared. If you are open minded and ready to step up when called upon, then you will feel confident to jump at any chance that you are presented with.

Play with Character And Integrity

Being a good teammate means that you respect and support your fellow teammates, opponents, and coaches. A coach’s responsibility in promoting respect amongst players helps build each player’s overall character and helps them recognize to play with integrity. To do this, a coach must first and foremost be the example—exhibit sportsmanship, keep your emotions in check and display humility. Sportsmanship, composure and being humble all lay the foundation of a player’s character. Integrity goes beyond playing fairly regarding rules, it also includes playing honestly towards teammates. This is done by putting forth 100% in your play, support, and morale, not only for yourself but also for your fellow players. Playing with character and integrity spills over into your dynamic in relationships in general. You create relationships based on attractive qualities in someone’s character and maintain them with integrity between both people.

The Process And People Matter The Most

When you look back at your own experience in childhood sports, you most likely don’t remember the number of wins and losses you had, but you do remember the journey and the people that contributed along the way. As a coach, it’s your job to teach the fundamentals of the sport so that players understand fully how to play. You teach them how to overcome obstacles, how to dribble a ball, how to communicate, and how to hit a home run to achieve a common goal. It is important to recognize the moving pieces and people in other aspects of life; the lessons learned along the way and how they have contributed to where you are today. The act of serving others and its importance can be learned from this experience. Try to be a part of other’s processes and journeys and make a positive difference in who they are as a person.

Learning from life experiences is one of the best tools of education available to us. By coaching youth sports in the community, you are invested in making a difference in the lives of your young athletes. Little did I know, as a coach, that I would, in turn, see a difference in my life and learn so many positive life lessons.

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The Truth Behind the Importance of Family Dinner Time

It’s a widely encouraged to sit down as a family for a certain number of dinners per week because those that do often cultivate more positive and communicative environments. But is there truth to this concept? Or is it merely a product of tradition and expectation? If you take the time to truly think about it, sitting down as a family for meals does improve communication and nurture relationships, but perhaps not in the ways that you would expect. Most times, you won’t get up from the table noticing any kind of improved attitude from your family members, but the long-term effects are worth it. Read on to learn about the importance of family dinner time and why it should not be a lost art even in a world of never-ending to-do lists and busy schedules.

There is a historical importance to meal time.

Historically, meal time has been and should be treated like a ritual. It is an opportunity for nourishment in every way that a person can be nourished. It is an opportunity for conversation and laughs and a time to enjoy home cooked food as a family. In doing so, family meals take on a certain sacredness on which family values can be established.

Having a set family dinner cultivates lifelong respect and communication.

At different phases in life, children go through different stages of communication. Most significantly, when your child hits his or her teen years the level of communication, and at times, respect might plummet to an all-time low. But fear not. This stage is not forever. By continuing to encourage family meals, you will establish habits and routines that will last a lifetime. So don’t lose hope on the importance of family meals even when it seems as though there is barely any communication at the dinner table. These stages won’t last forever, but the tradition of sitting down for family meals will.

Family dinners slow down the chaos of life.

Don’t go ninety miles an hour through every day. Take moments to slow it down because this is where you will find the true sweetness in life. Use family dinner times as a technology-free and responsibility-less time to truly enjoy the company of those sitting around the table with you. We all need some time to just talk with those we are closest to. If anything, you’ll feel more relaxed and refreshed when everyone gets up.

 

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The Importance of the “Why?” Phase

For those of you who have or have had toddlers, and even for those that haven’t, this phase is probably a bit familiar. The “Why?” Phase is that stage toddlers hit when suddenly they want to know all the ins and outs of the world. They want to know why things are the way they are, and why they work the way they work. Arguably, this stage is the most curious a person will ever be because it’s when we first start figuring things out. And although after a while, it may get a little frustrating to hear “But why?” after “But why?,” try your hardest to remain calm with your toddler. Explain your answer in the best way you can – no one’s going to judge you if you have to whip out your phone and search for it.

Whatever you do, remember that this “Why?” Phase is crucial to your child’s understanding of the world and considerably critical to their development. Consider these tips to help develop your child’s natural curiosity.

Try to figure out exactly what it is they are wondering about.

At such a young age, their curiosity far outweighs their vocabulary to describe it. When answering their questions, do your best to figure out exactly what they are talking about, even if they lack the words to describe it. This way, you can give them an answer that makes the most sense to them. Watch as the gears churn in their head as they start to understand the rules that govern our world.

Give the best answer you can.

Sometimes, if not most times, you won’t have the perfect answer to any of your child’s “why?” questions, but try to answer the best you can anyway. Smartphones are a beautiful thing because the answer to virtually any question is at our fingertips, so don’t be afraid to look it up. Chances are they will be captivated by whatever you say, but if you take the time to figure out the correct response you’ll learn a little something along the way as well. Curiosity induces curiosity, and you’ll be surprised about how much your toddler can teach you.

Use your child’s questions as insight.

When children are this young, their thoughts are wild with imagination and curiosity about how our universe exists. Use these “why?” moments as insights into your child’s thoughts, interests, and future passions. Discover what they find fascinating and let that help you build on your child’s interest. Children need encouragement to be curious, so they can discover their passions as early as possible.

So, next time your toddler or someone else’s toddler won’t stop asking “why this?” and “why that?,” stay calm and remember this is a large part of their learning process. Have fun answering the questions and you may just learn a thing or two!

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