The Truth Behind the Importance of Family Dinner Time

It’s a widely encouraged to sit down as a family for a certain number of dinners per week because those that do often cultivate more positive and communicative environments. But is there truth to this concept? Or is it merely a product of tradition and expectation? If you take the time to truly think about it, sitting down as a family for meals does improve communication and nurture relationships, but perhaps not in the ways that you would expect. Most times, you won’t get up from the table noticing any kind of improved attitude from your family members, but the long-term effects are worth it. Read on to learn about the importance of family dinner time and why it should not be a lost art even in a world of never-ending to-do lists and busy schedules.

There is a historical importance to meal time.

Historically, meal time has been and should be treated like a ritual. It is an opportunity for nourishment in every way that a person can be nourished. It is an opportunity for conversation and laughs and a time to enjoy home cooked food as a family. In doing so, family meals take on a certain sacredness on which family values can be established.

Having a set family dinner cultivates lifelong respect and communication.

At different phases in life, children go through different stages of communication. Most significantly, when your child hits his or her teen years the level of communication, and at times, respect might plummet to an all-time low. But fear not. This stage is not forever. By continuing to encourage family meals, you will establish habits and routines that will last a lifetime. So don’t lose hope on the importance of family meals even when it seems as though there is barely any communication at the dinner table. These stages won’t last forever, but the tradition of sitting down for family meals will.

Family dinners slow down the chaos of life.

Don’t go ninety miles an hour through every day. Take moments to slow it down because this is where you will find the true sweetness in life. Use family dinner times as a technology-free and responsibility-less time to truly enjoy the company of those sitting around the table with you. We all need some time to just talk with those we are closest to. If anything, you’ll feel more relaxed and refreshed when everyone gets up.

 

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4 People You Need to Live a More Faith-Filled Life

It’s easy to lose sight of your spiritual vision from time to time when life happens and gets in the way. But spending time with people who share similar values, interests, and fundamental life goals can help you keep your spiritual life on track even when your personal life seems to be falling apart. If you want or are in need of a lifestyle change, taking a look at the kinds of people you fill your life with is a good start. To live a more faith-filled life make sure you surround yourself with people who share your similar spiritual goals. Here are four people you need in your life to live a more faith-filled life.

The other opinion

We are all entitled to our own opinions when it comes to everything from religion to politics. But make sure you stay educated and informed on your own opinions by exploring all perspectives when it comes to your spiritual viewpoints. The best way to do this is to learn from other people in your life who may have different opinions than your own. Be sure you stand behind the one that makes the most sense and mirrors your personal values and morals best, but keep an open mind and truly listen to those who have an opposing opinion. Remember, there is nothing wrong with disagreeing on certain topics. In fact, by disagreeing with someone you have the chance to strengthen your own views and give you another reason to stand behind them.

The younger perspective

We can learn from anyone and everyone in our lives. Age is just a number after all. So keep an open mind when discussing faith with your children or mentees. You’ll be surprised at the refreshing outlook younger minds can provide you with. When you’re lost on your own spiritual journey, listening to insight from someone who is in a completely different life stage than you can really rejuvenate your own outlook and provide a unique source of clarity.

The teacher

While younger perspectives may offer a more refreshing, innocent viewpoint, there is something to be said for the “older and wiser” people in our lives. They’ve been around the block a time or two, so they are often your best advice givers and listeners. Whether you find this perspective in your parents or you seek out an older mentor or religious person, be honest with them and your journey. They can provide you with invaluable advice and perspectives that can truly alternate your spiritual outlook.

The one you can count on

This one is no brainer. We need people in our lives that serve as our rocks, keep us grounded, and make sure our spiritual vision stays in line. Whether it’s a life partner, spouse, or faithful companion, we need to have people we can rely on to reinforce our faith on a daily basis. So choose carefully and make sure you have someone in your life who you can turn to when you feel lost on your own path.

The people you spend the most time with tend to be the people who are our biggest life influencers, so be sure to actively seek out people who serve as a positive influence on your own spiritual life.

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The Importance of the “Why?” Phase

For those of you who have or have had toddlers, and even for those that haven’t, this phase is probably a bit familiar. The “Why?” Phase is that stage toddlers hit when suddenly they want to know all the ins and outs of the world. They want to know why things are the way they are, and why they work the way they work. Arguably, this stage is the most curious a person will ever be because it’s when we first start figuring things out. And although after a while, it may get a little frustrating to hear “But why?” after “But why?,” try your hardest to remain calm with your toddler. Explain your answer in the best way you can – no one’s going to judge you if you have to whip out your phone and search for it.

Whatever you do, remember that this “Why?” Phase is crucial to your child’s understanding of the world and considerably critical to their development. Consider these tips to help develop your child’s natural curiosity.

Try to figure out exactly what it is they are wondering about.

At such a young age, their curiosity far outweighs their vocabulary to describe it. When answering their questions, do your best to figure out exactly what they are talking about, even if they lack the words to describe it. This way, you can give them an answer that makes the most sense to them. Watch as the gears churn in their head as they start to understand the rules that govern our world.

Give the best answer you can.

Sometimes, if not most times, you won’t have the perfect answer to any of your child’s “why?” questions, but try to answer the best you can anyway. Smartphones are a beautiful thing because the answer to virtually any question is at our fingertips, so don’t be afraid to look it up. Chances are they will be captivated by whatever you say, but if you take the time to figure out the correct response you’ll learn a little something along the way as well. Curiosity induces curiosity, and you’ll be surprised about how much your toddler can teach you.

Use your child’s questions as insight.

When children are this young, their thoughts are wild with imagination and curiosity about how our universe exists. Use these “why?” moments as insights into your child’s thoughts, interests, and future passions. Discover what they find fascinating and let that help you build on your child’s interest. Children need encouragement to be curious, so they can discover their passions as early as possible.

So, next time your toddler or someone else’s toddler won’t stop asking “why this?” and “why that?,” stay calm and remember this is a large part of their learning process. Have fun answering the questions and you may just learn a thing or two!

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